If you want to be in a relationship with an English speaker, you need to understand what they say... and it’s not always easy! In this lesson, you’ll learn common relationship vocabulary, expressions, and cultural meanings that English speakers use a lot. We’ll talk about expressions like “We need to talk,” and “I need space.” Youll also learn the difference between “break” and “break up”, what people mean when they talk about chemistry, how to recognize a red flag, and how to use “I feel” statements for better communication. Whether youre in a relationship with an English speaker, want to start dating one, or just want to watch movies about them, this video will help you understand relationship conversations. Take the quiz on this lesson to test your understanding: https://www.engvid.com/what-english-speakers-say-in-relationships/

More of my videos about relationships in English:
https://youtu.be/oIiCB0kdUJQ
https://youtu.be/CPnveccPS0k

In this lesson:
0:00 Expressions for being in a relationship with an English speaker
1:36 "We need to talk."
3:30 chemistry
4:46 "Whats wrong?", "Are you mad at me?", "Did I do something?"
6:09 "Its complicated."
7:04 red flag
8:48 "A break" or "a breakup"?
10:09 "On the same page"
11:20 "I feel..."

Transcript:
Today we have a fun lesson. Were going to talk about dating somebody who speaks English as a first language. So if youre someone whos learning English or English is not your first language, it can be really hard when youre dating somebody who speaks English fluently and its their first language. Theres a lot of misunderstandings, a lot of confusing things that people might say. So, if your girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, or wife speaks English and you want to understand them better, this lesson is for you. If you dont... If you are not dating somebody who speaks English, no problem. A lot of the words we are covering today can be heard in movies, in pop culture, in TV shows, so the vocabulary here is good for you to learn as well. Or maybe your dream is to date somebody who speaks another language, so this video might be for you as well. So lets look at todays plan.

So today we are going to look at some confusing words and expressions that are often used in relationships that people who speak English as a second language might find challenging. Were going to look at ways to express yourself in a relationship better, how to understand more what your partner might be saying, and how to avoid some misunderstandings. So lets get started.

The first expression is a really important expression because when an English speaker hears this, they realize that theres a lot of meaning this expression carries. "We need to talk" means theres a problem. So if youre in a relationship and your partner says, "We need to talk, get ready", in general its probably going to be a serious conversation that might be upsetting or there might be a problem that you have to talk about. So if you hear the words "We need to talk", get prepared. It doesnt mean, "Oh, you know, lets have a conversation. This is great." "We need to talk" is serious. You will hear it in movies and in TV shows. Whenever you hear "We need to talk", prepare yourself because a problem or something bad is probably about to be told to you.

Okay, another expression a lot of people might say in a relationship is "I need space. I need space." So, the reason this might confuse someone is they hear the word "space" and they might think, "Oh, you just need me to be, you know, moving over a little bit." When somebody says, "I need space", they mean that they need time alone. Usually they say this if theres a problem in the relationship, so they need to think about things, they want to become a bit more emotionally distant. So, if you hear somebody say, "I need space", it means that they want some time alone. And its a very common thing people ask for in relationships. So if youre in a relationship or if youre watching a TV show or movie about relationships, youll probably hear this, "I need space."

A word you might hear when it comes to dating is the word "chemistry". So, chemistry is a science, but when we talk about it in a dating or relationship situation, it really means attraction. So it means that two people like each other and they have a physical connection, so theyre attracted to each other. So, what are some examples of how I would use this? Oh, you might say maybe you have two friends, and when you see those two friends together, you think, "Oh, theyre perfect for each other. Theres so much chemistry." It means theres so much attraction between them. Or maybe you go on a date and you just click. […]